9.19.2006

It's lonely around this little city these days.
No one to call up for drinks, go for drives around town late at night.
"A cup of coffee and a little conversation."
music.
movies.
mindlessness.

The things us kids fill our time with these days.
I always tell my parents when they critique my amount of c.d. purchases...
"I have nothing else to keep me sane.
It's a safer thrill than drugs, and cheaper than counseling. "


There are a couple of events coming up:
October Fifth: Kascade plays at Caprice.
October Seventh: You Say Party We Say Die plays at Richards on Richards.
October Fourteenth: Sufjan Stevens plays at St. Andrews Wesley Church.
All in Vancouver. All worth the trip.

.. . .. . ........... . ..
According to the looking-glass self theory by Charles Horton Cooley, our self is formulated in response to our perceptions of the reactions of others towards us.
So, we imagine how we look to others, according to attractiveness, friendliness, and intelligence.
We imagine how others judge us.
We develop a self feeling, such as pride or shame, as a result of our perceptions of these evaluations.







How then, does a negative self concept arise out of positive social interation and consistent positive feedback from peers?

Somehow the disapproval of character, self inflicted or otherwise, creeps in. Takes over.

Is self esteem innate? Or socialized?

4 Comments:

Blogger melanie said...

if i were there, dear friend, I'd call up for a good 'ol movie and music and mindlessness.

i love you.
lets talk soon,please.

September 19, 2006 11:22 PM  
Blogger hoardingsanity said...

self esteem, although you might feel it sometimes when feeling fat or ugly (things i am commonly familiar with feeling), is mostly bullshit.

the self is entirely composed of social interactions. so yes, you depend on other people's opinions, however, i don't think you actually consider what other people think of you when you are feeling awkward. it's mostly what you think of you.

September 20, 2006 11:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it has allot to do with comparison, your own judgments of yourself in regards to others. we see ourselves in relation to how we see and judge others and assume that others judge or evaluate us in the same way we judge them (in some cases) i have pretty much had nothing but encouragement and praise and affection from my friends and family, yet one wouldnt guess that with my level of self esteem. it is how we process the encouragement we get from others and whether we hold onto it and accept it or dismiss it as mere flattery.... anywyas...random thoughts... love you dear.

September 22, 2006 12:49 PM  
Blogger Spiro said...

i'd say a lil' of both. but that's not a really intelligent response, so I'll mention something else, like,

"by the way, it was good to see you when bon was in town"

or,

"ps. i hope you have a good christmas"

or,

"why didn't you go see sufjan stevens?"

or, many other beautiful things that fill my head when i hear the name of, or read the words of, k solgaard.

December 20, 2006 3:37 PM  

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